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10 Ways I Healed My Anxiety!

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I used to have debilitating anxiety.

How amazing is it that I can update this blog and add in the words “used to”?! I can honestly say it is an incredible feeling that I wish for each and every single one of you!!!!It isn’t a secret. I have talked about it a lot on social media and with pretty much everyone in my life. I choose to talk about it because, not only did it help me feel better, but it also helped me feel unashamed.

It isn’t a secret. I have talked about it a lot on social media and with pretty much everyone in my life. I choose to talk about it because, not only does it help me feel better, but it has also helped me feel unashamed.

Ashamed. Angry. Embarrassed. All words I have used to describe my anxiety in the past. It wasn’t until my most recent mindset work that I came to appreciate my anxiety. Anxiety isn’t all that I am, but it is a part of me, and without it, I might not be the Courtney I know and love today. AND I TRULY LOVE WHO I AM.

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From as far back as I can remember I have always struggled with my mental health. (I now know I am an empath and that has also raised my awareness on my anxiety and how most times I am just picking up other people’s shit – click here to read more about that!). I remember going through the diagnosis process as a kid and being very aware of my body. My first panic attack, that I now know was a panic attack, was the whole nine. Hyperventilating, rage, brown paper bag to combat my breathing, scared, crying, all of it. The only thing I remember from that experience to this day was the fear I had, but my mom NEVER left my side. She was incredible and still is to this day when I have a bad spat of anxiety and I need her.

Last year, I had a terrifying choking experience. I had lodged a piece of pizza crust in my throat. Yes, a 25-year-old woman lodged a piece of pizza in her throat. #Embarrassing. What was most scary was I could feel it in my throat, but I wasn’t choking. Most. Uncomfortable. Feeling. Ever. I have always had this thing about choking since I choked on pizza for the first time in 5th grade. It is a trigger for me. My mom & dad, all the way in Idaho, stayed on the phone with me for over an hour and a half talking me down. Without them and Joe – that night would have been disastrous.

I was misdiagnosed a few times before we really figured out what I had. I remember the first diagnosis was asthma. Really? Now, I feel like how could that have even happened. But it did. After hitting the pharmacy I came home with a giant bag full of inhalers and meds. Only to have another panic attack and NONE of them work for me. Thank God for the mother I have who let me throw ALL of it in the trash after I told her, yes me as an (at the time) 10-11-year-old girl, that it wasn’t right. I told you I was VERY aware of my body.

Since that day, really, I have tried so many meds to fight this illness and take the edge off every day. With one terrible experience of a doctor putting me (as a child) on a really high dose of meds that scared the crap out of me. I literally felt like I was on the outside of my body looking in. It was scary and I haven’t truly been able to give meds a chance since. Since I don’t really believe meds are what is right for me, there are 10 things I do (TEN!!) every single day to help, more naturally, live and thrive throughout my life.

Without further ado – My 10 #AnxietyTips:

1. I gave up caffeine – completely

Having a highly sensitive body, I have to avoid it at all costs. This has been a struggle as I love the flavor and taste of coffee, but I thank God for decaf, it’s my saving grace.

2. I take melatonin every single night

Sleep is SO important and my anxiety causes insomnia. I have made a true effort to improve my sleep hygiene (it is still an ongoing process) but I have an 8-9 pm bedtime that I try to stick to every weeknight. I really recommend this brand from Amazon, #lifechanging!

3. NO Sugar (especially chocolate) late at night

Going back to the caffeine thing, sugar and chocolate can make it so difficult for me to fall/stay asleep. Yesterday I had my dessert BEFORE dinner at 4 pm. Haha. I wanted chocolate and knew if I had it too late I would screw myself that night. #NotWorthIt

4. Eat a healthy + balanced diet + very little alcohol

With such a sensitive body, if I eat a bunch of junk/rich/crap food, my body truly pays for it. Throw in some alcohol + forget about it. A few months ago we had our Disneyland trip, my birthday, moving and I started a new job and we didn’t have a lot of time to cook and it took a true toll on my body/anxiety. Eating Organic/Non-GMO healthy food and water is what my body needs. A weeknight meal for me usually is some brown rice, ground turkey, corn, sweet potatoes, avocado and lettuce “burrito bowl”. I could quite possibly eat this meal every day and be perfectly healthy and happy! Haha!

5. Hire a Life Coach or Two

I used to believe in therapy, but in recent months I have found that life coaching has worked much better for me. In therapy, I was so focused on the past that I was manifesting MUCH MORE of my bad experiences. With my life coaches, we have healed my past, let go and forgave and we focus on the future. It has truly changed my life. I have never felt this way before and it is the most incredible feeling!!!! If you would like to learn about my amazing coach you can do so, here!

6. Take an essential oil bath, EVERY night

This has been one of the most therapeutic/life changing steps I have ever added to my regime. Skipping my bath, can be very hurtful to my body and can amp up my anxiety levels. There is something about the warm water, candlelight, aroma of oils and some “me” time is just so good. I also use essential oils in a couple diffusers in my home and sometimes mixed in with some lotion directly on my body. Lavender, Peppermint, Sweet Orange and Eucalyptus are my FAVORITES. Here is a starter kit I recommend trying for the first time.

7. Take vitamins + minerals + probiotics

Not only do I drink a Kombucha EVERY morning, but I take a multivitamin, fish oil and vitamin D complex.

8. Meditate EVERY, DAMN DAY! 

When I started making meditation and quieting my mind as a solid part of my practices, I could FEEL the shift in my energy. I started smiling more, I started being happier, I started LIVING and not just existing. Meditation every morning before my feet hit the floor and grounding myself has been one of the most key elements to my healing.

Check Out My Favorite Guided Meditations, Here!

9. Journal that shit, out!

When I was first learning how to connect with my guides and how to feel, and go through, the negative emotions. Journaling was a life saver for me. I usually meditate, connect to source energy and then journal out all of those feelings on paper. There truly is something about a pen and a paper that really gets me to release my tension, anxiety and negative energy!

10. Be positive and work on my mindset work every single day!    

I am not saying you should push your negative feelings away. I do find it important to FEEL them. I think if you acknowledge them and work on how to heal them, you will feel MUCH better! This has been a real eye-opener for me. Being open, honest and real about my emotions with Joe, my family/friends + the world I can express what I am feeling + what I need and it has been so helpful. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. If you are battling a mental illness please know you are never alone. Talk about it. Be open and DO NOT FEEL ASHAMED. For God’s sakes, you can send me an email and I will chat with you. Please just know, we are all in this together and there are ways to get through this. You will get through this.

What are some ways you infuse positivity and light into your life? Let me know in the comments!! I am always looking for new ways to help myself.

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  1. I’m pretty sure my 10 y/o boy has anxiety issues, and I’m not sure how to help him. Getting help from professionals hasn’t gotten us anywhere. What did you do as a young person to help the effects?

    1. Hi, Lisa! I am so so sorry your son is going through this. It is really hard. I would DEFFINITLEY use oils ON him. Every morning and night. I also would have him take some melatonin gummies at night. Sleep is SO important. I also would say not to give up on therapy. I have had some TERRIBLE therapists. I usually interview the heck out of them before I go to see them on a regular basis. I will keep your boy in my thoughts and prayers. 🙂

  2. Your experience as a child sounds SO similar to mine…except for the asthma diagnoses…HOW did they get it that wrong?!

    Your last point is so good. Sometimes I struggle with feeling like I’m complaining/being a downer, but it’s so so important to talk about these things.

    1. I know right?! Asthma??? It blows my mind, still to this day… And girlfriend please don’t EVER feel like a downer. Talk about it, get it out. If people in your circle make you feel that way, maybe start talking to others. You are not alone and it is so so good to talk about it!

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